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Two other women, also breast cancer survivors, said their husbands left them after they were diagnosed. Both had to have mastectomies (in case anyone doesn’t know, this is the surgical operation to remove one or both breasts).

The first woman said her husband told her that he would rather see her dead than see her lose her breasts. The second woman had her operation and waited all day to be picked up by her husband, who never arrived. By nightfall, one of the nurses offered to give her a ride, and she came home to find the house empty.

Obviously, these are extreme cases of a man’s reaction to his wife’s breast cancer, but this is what I see when I see the “I ♥ Boobies” bracelets. I see love of the body parts, not the person being treated—not the patient, not the victim, not the survivor.

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I will never not reblog this. So important.  (via youmightbeamisogynist)

oh my god this is heartbreaking

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Talk about objectification and misogyny at its extreme! *shakes head*

Maybe future women who come from families with a history of breast cancer should make their husbands sign a contract that say something like this: “I, *hubby’s name*, solemnly swear that… in the instance that my wife might need to get her breasts removed… I will continue to stick by her and value her for the person that she is… and not for the lumps that fat that might, one day, need to be removed.”

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how much i love you

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this is the most beautiful post i have ever seen I’m my life

This makes me a happy Irish man

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rafi-dangelo:

We’re not people really.  Our concerns are not America’s concerns.  We are just here for entertainment. We’re a convenient treasure trove of limitless creativity to be pillaged, watered down, and re-purposed for White audiences and the people getting rich from bastardized stereotypes and simplified caricatures of everything we bring to the table have nothing to say when shit gets really real.

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  • Question: hi there (: you reblogged something earlier about abolishing porn and i was just wondering why you think that should happen. i kinda agree with abolishing porn, but im just wondering your reasons behind doing it. thanks, have a great day & stay golden! - Anonymous
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    womxxn:

    Okay, I am basically going to link you to a ton of sources because i don’t feel like saying freshly what other more articulate women have been saying for a long time.  I will add mini descriptions so you know what is behind each link.  They should all be relatively safe for work, but considering the material be wary.

    MAJOR TW FOR ABUSE, RAPE, PORN, VIOLENCE, AND MORE

    First, Shelley Luben, an ex pornstar herself, runs the pink cross foundation which is for helping porn stars get out and recover from porn. She has interviewed tons of porn stars and there are quotes here 

    tw for very graphic material. The quotes include things like:

    Corina Taylor: “When I arrived to the set I expected to do a vaginal girl boy scene. But during the scene with a male porn star, he forced himself anally into me and would not stop. I yelled at him to stop and screamed ‘No’ over and over but he would not stop. The pain became too much and I was in shock and my body went limp.”

    Elizabeth Rollings: “I didn’t want to feel the pain of penetration from an over average sized man, being told to freeze in a position until the camera man was happy with his shots was very painful. I had peoples body fluids forced on my face or anywhere else the producer pleased and I had to accept it or else no pay. Sometimes you would get to a gig and the producer would change what the scene was supposed to be to something more intense and again if you didn’t like it, too bad, you did it or no pay.”

    here is another link, this time through Gynocraticgrrls tumblr but she shows where she got all these quotes from so I think it is still valid.  She talks about the misogyny of the porn industry.  Here are some quotes from pornographers in contrast to the former porn stars above.  Note how the women discuss being abused the men, in contrast, talk about how they love to abuse the women in their movies.

    "There’s nothing I love more than when a girl insists to me that she won’t take a cock in her ass, because — oh yes she will!" - Max Hardcore, interviewed in Hustler (June 1995).

    "My whole reason for being in this Industry is to satisfy the desire of the men in the world who basically don’t much care for women and want to see the men in my Industry getting even with the women they couldn’t have when they were growing up. I strongly believe this… so we come on a woman’s face or somewhat brutalize her sexually: we’re getting even for their lost dreams. I believe this. I’ve heard audiences cheer me when I do something foul on screen. When I’ve strangled a person or sodomized a person, or brutalized a person, the audience is cheering my action, and then when I’ve fulfilled my warped desire, the audience applauds." - Bill Margold, porn industry veteran and Free Speech Coalition board member.

    And another masterpost, this time from Appropriately-inappropriate, where she describes the global market power of the porn industry and how they wield that power.  There isn’t a good piece to quote, you need to read the whole thing.  Go there now.

    Here GG is with another porn critical post, this one with dozens of sources at the bottom for your perusing pleasure.  (well, displeasure, there is very little that will make you feel as sick as any of these links do)

    This post at GG has some more good stats, this time on the correlations and causes of sex offenders.  There are several parts that discuss how pornography usage is repeatedly found in men that are sex offenders.

    Further, how do you know that all participants in porn movies consented to being filmed and consented to the film being released to the wider public.  Revenge porn is a thing and since it is it becomes even more unethical to watch it, even if you are watching amateur porn and think its better.  

    If you want more reasons I have a ton more resources I could direct you to, but there are lots of studies and links within the five links I have provided so that should give you plenty to chew on.

    If you have Netflix, I highly recommend watching “The Price of Pleasure,” a documentary about the porn industry. You could also check out Dr. Gail Dine’s lectures on pornography on youtube (1, 2, 3, 4)

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  • Question: Yeah because you can totally tell how smart I am based on my opinion that porn is okay vs your opinion that is isn't. You're what's wrong with feminism; making men evil no matter what and women are always innocent victims who can't make choices for themselves. Because porn stars are totally forced to shoot videos and none of them have EVER quit the industry, right? Oh wait they have. - Anonymous
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    luaren:

    gonna need to pull your head out of your ass to read this one buddy

    MASSIVE trigger warning for the following links and bullets.  includes mentions of rape, abuse, violence, racism, misogyny, homophobia, child sex abuse, pedophilia

    Porn use:

    • There are over 420 million pages of pornographic material online worldwide. (IFR)
    • 72 million searches for porn are logged monthly. (IFR)
    • 25% of all daily search engine requests are for pornography (68 million searches daily) (IFR)
    • 42.7% of internet users view porn (IFR)
    • 100,000-plus websites are devoted to child pornography. There are over 116,000 daily requests for this material. (IFR)
    • 20% of men admit to accessing pornography at work (IFR)
    • 35% of those purchasing online porn make $75,000-plus annually. (IFR)
    • The United States is the top producer of pornographic web pages with 244,661,900, or 89 percent (IFR)
    • Worldwide revenue from mobile phone pornography is $1 billion-plus and growing (Bryan-Low, Cassel and Pringle, David. “Sex Cells: Wireless Operators Find That Racy Cellphone Video Drives Surge in Broadband Use.” The Wall Street Journal, May 12, 2005)

    Ex-porn star testimonies:

    • Corina Taylor: ”When I arrived to the set I expected to do a vaginal girl boy scene. But during the scene with a male porn star, he forced himself anally into me and would not stop. I yelled at him to stop and screamed ‘No’ over and over but he would not stop. The pain became too much and I was in shock and my body went limp.”
    • Jenna Jameson: ”Most girls get their first experience in gonzo films – in which they’re taken to a crappy studio apartment in Mission Hills and penetrated in every hole possible by some abusive asshole who thinks her name is Bitch.”
    • Alexa James: ”The first shoot I did was with a man who was probably 40 and he was as thick as a soda can. He held me down and shoved it in me with no lube tearing my vagina. When I started to tear up and cry he flipped me over and continued from behind be so they wouldn’t get me crying on film. He pulled my hair and choked me over and over again even when I told him it hurt and I could barely breathe.”
    • Linda Lovelace: ”My initiation into prostitution was a gang rape by five men, arranged by Mr. Traynor. It was the turning point in my life. He threatened to shoot me with the pistol if I didn’t go through with it. I had never experienced anal sex before and it ripped me apart. They treated me like an inflatable plastic doll, picking me up and moving me here and there. They spread my legs this way and that, shoving their things at me and into me, they were playing musical chairs with parts of my body. I have never been so frightened and disgraced and humiliated in my life. I felt like garbage. I engaged in sex acts for pornography against my will to avoid being killed.The lives of my family were threatened.”
    • Andi Anderson: ”After a year or so of that so-called “glamorous” life, I sadly discovered that drugs and drinking were a part of the lifestyle. I began to drink and party out of control! Cocaine, alcohol and ecstasy were my favorites. Before long, I turned into a person I did not want to be. After doing so many hardcore scenes I couldn’t do it anymore. I just remember being in horrible situations and experiencing extreme depression and being alone and sad.”
    • Alexa Milano: ”My first movie I was treated very rough by 3 guys. They pounded on me, gagged me with their penises, and tossed me around like I was a ball! I was sore, hurting and could barely walk. My insides burned and hurt so badly. I could barely pee and to try to have a bowel movement was out of the question. I was hurting so bad from the physical abuse from these 3 male porn stars.”
    • Jessie Jewels: ”People in the porn industry are numb to real life and are like zombies walking around. The abuse that goes on in this industry is completely ridiculous. The way these young ladies are treated is totally sick and brainwashing. I left due to the trauma I experienced even though I was there only a short time.”
    • Genevieve: ”I had bodily fluids all over my face that had to stay on my face for ten minutes. The abuse and degradation was rough. I sweated and was in deep pain. On top of the horrifying experience, my whole body ached, and I was irritable the whole day. The director didn’t really care how I felt; he only wanted to finish the video.”
    • Jersey Jaxin: ”Guys punching you in the face. You have semen from many guys all over your face, in your eyes. You get ripped. Your insides can come out of you. It’s never ending.”
    • Elizabeth Rollings: ”I didn’t want to feel the pain of penetration from an over average sized man, being told to freeze in a position until the camera man was happy with his shots was very painful. I had peoples body fluids forced on my face or anywhere else the producer pleased and I had to accept it or else no pay. Sometimes you would get to a gig and the producer would change what the scene was supposed to be to something more intense and again if you didn’t like it, too bad, you did it or no pay.”
    • Lucky Starr: ”I was worried about my first anal scene for quite a few days … then the big moment arrived. It REALLY hurt! I almost quit and said, “I can’t do this”. When it was all over, I was so happy and relieved I was able to do it…”
    • Ashlyn Brooke: ”I honestly felt that if I had to have another strange man in my face, his hands (God knows where they’ve been all over me) him calling me his baby and having to exude some sort of forged passion for the world to see, I probably would have exploded. And what would have been stuck to the walls would have probably been nothing, just pieces of skin, bone, the brain of a robot, and what would have been left of what would have existed once as a huge and warm heart.”
    • Roxy: ”After only 30 movies I caught two sexually transmitted diseases. Herpes, a non-curable disease and HPV, which led to cervical cancer where I had to have half of my cervix removed. Porn destroyed my life.”
    • Anita Cannibal: ”Yeah, there are a lot of cover-ups going on. There is a lot of tragedy. There are a lot of horrible things.”
    • Tamra Toryn: ”As for myself, I ended up paying the price from working in the porn industry. In 2006, not even 9 months in, I caught a moderate form of dysplasia of the cervix (which is a form of HPV, a sexually transmitted disease) and later that day, I also found out I was pregnant. I had only 1 choice which was to abort the baby during my first month. It was extremely painful emotionally and physically. When it was all over, I cried my eyes out.”
    • Jessi Summers: ”I also did a scene where I was put with male talent that was on my no list. I wanted to please them so I did it. He put his foot on my head and stepped on it while he was doing me from behind. I freaked out and started balling; they stopped filming and sent me home with reduced pay since they got some shot but not the whole sce

    porn trends:

    how pornographers feel about women:

    • "I’d like to really show what I believe the men want to see: violence against women. I firmly believe that we [pornographers] serve a purpose by showing that. The most violent we can get is the cum shot in the face. Men get off behind that, because they get even with the women they can’t have. We try to inundate the world with orgasms in the face." -  Bill Margold, porn industry veteran, quoted in Robert J. Stoller and I. S. Levine, Coming Attractions: The Making of an X-rated video; 1993.
    • "There’s nothing I love more than when a girl insists to me that she won’t take a cock in her ass, because — oh yes she will!" -Max Hardcore, interviewed in Hustler (June 1995).
    • "My whole reason for being in this Industry is to satisfy the desire of the men in the world who basically don’t much care for women and want to see the men in my Industry getting even with the women they couldn’t have when they were growing up. I strongly believe this… so we come on a woman’s face or somewhat brutalize her sexually: we’re getting even for their lost dreams. I believe this. I’ve heard audiences cheer me when I do something foul on screen. When I’ve strangled a person or sodomized a person, or brutalized a person, the audience is cheering my action, and then when I’ve fulfilled my warped desire, the audience applauds." - Bill Margold, porn industry veteran and Free Speech Coalition board member.
    • "It might promote violence against women in the United States, but I say, ‘Good.’ I hate those bitches. They’re out of line and that’s one of the reasons I want to do this … I’m going through a divorce right now. … I hate American women." - What pornographers really think of women (Deutsche Presse-Agentur, 14 October 1999)

    2010 study on popular porn films:

    • 88% of scenes contained physical aggression, including spanking, gagging, and slapping. 
    • Women were overwhelmingly the targets of aggressive acts, and men the perpetrators.
    • Following instances of aggression towards women, in 95% of cases the women expressed pleasure or neutrality.

    cases of porn leading children to commit sexual assualt IN THE UK ALONE:

    • February 2014: A 13-year-old boy told a UK court that he raped his 8-year-old sister after viewing pornography at his friend’s house.  The teenager told police he “decided to try it out” on his sister because she was small and “couldn’t remember stuff,” reported the Lancashire Telegraph.
    • November 2013: A different 13-year old UK boy pleaded guilty to raping an eight-year old girlwhen he was 10. A pornography addiction since age 9 was said to have played a significant role in his crimes.
    • March 2013: Two boys aged 14 and 15 admitted to a British court that they were re-enacting scenes witnessed in violent online pornography when they beat, brutalized, then raped a 14-year-old girl they had tied to a chair.
    • March 2013: A UK report found that thousands of British children had committed sexual offenses. In all, 4,562 minors – some as young as five – committed 5,028 sexual offenses over a three year period from 2009-2012. Experts blamed “easy access to sexual material.”
    • January 2012: Children’s aid and sex abuse organizations in Australia largely blamed 414 cases of children sexually abusing other children on the explosion of pornography made accessible to children.
    • August 2012: A 13-year-old Canadian boy pleaded guilty to repeatedly raping a 4-year-old boy who lived in his foster home. The boy said the idea came from watching “gay porn” on his foster parents’ home computer.
    • April 2012: A child therapist reported a case of a 13-year-old boy who raped his 5-year-old sisterafter developing a “complex fantasy world” warped by “two years of constant porn use.”

    racism in porn:

    • Latinos and HispanicsPornography tends to stereotype Hispanic women as feisty, “hot and spicy Latinas”, sexy Señoritas, with a high sex drive and low impulse control. Many are portrayed as maidsillegal immigrants to the United States, or unfaithful wives. Since Latinos and Hispanics can be of any race (many are white Hispanic AmericansMestizos etc.), cultural characteristics are sometimes portrayed via iconic items like South and Central American national costumessombrerosmaracas, or Mexican dresses.
    • Asian women: Are viewed as sexually willing or submissive. Asian men are hardly portrayed in pairing with white women and not as common compared to white men with asian women porn. Asian women are mainly portrayed as the: “Dragon Ladies”, as servile “Lotus Blossom Babies”, “Innocent School Girls” in private school uniforms, “China dolls”, “Geisha girls”, war brides, or prostitutes. Japanese media have also at times sensationalistically promoted the stereotype of Japanese women overseas as “yellow cabs”. 
    • Black performers: Large penis size in Black men is consistently emphasized in pornography, often by exclusively casting actors with larger than average penises such as Lexington SteeleKid BengalaJack Napier and Mandingo. Men are often treated to stereotypes of gang affiliation, working class labor, and are overrepresented in gang rape fetish films. Also, they are represented as overly aggressive and demanding, and are performing with white women. Similarly, black women are often portrayed with large breast and buttocks, or ‘booty’. They normally play a submissive role while performing with a white male.

    Kid’s access to pornography:

    • Youth who look at violent x-rated material are six times more likely to report forcing someone to do something sexual online or in-person versus youth not exposed to x-rated material. [12]
    • Middle-school aged boys who view X-rated content are almost three times more likely to report oral sex and sexual intercourse than boys who do not use sexually explicit material[13]  
    • A study in the southeastern U.S. found that 53 percent of boys and 28 percent of girls (ages 12-15) reported use of sexually explicit media. The Internet was the most popular forum for viewing. [14]
    • The words “sex” and “porn” rank fourth and sixth among the top ten most popular search terms. [15]
    • Roughly two-thirds (67 percent) of young men and one-half (49 percent) of young women agree that viewing pornography is acceptable.[7]
    • Nearly 9 out of 10 (87 percent) young men and 1 out of 3 (31 percent) young women report using pornography.[8]
    • Experts have warned that the rise in the viewing of pornography was implicated in a variety of problems, including a rise in the levels of STDs and teenage pregnancies.  Additionally, males aged between 12 and 17 who regularly viewed pornography had sex at an earlier stage in life and were more likely to initiate oral sex, apparently imitating what they had seen. [9] [10]
    • Internet pornography was blamed for a 20 percent increase in sexual attacks by children over three years.[6]
    • One out of three youth who viewed pornography, viewed the pornography intentionally.[1]
    • Seven out of ten youth have accidentally come across pornography online.[2]
    • Nearly 80 percent of unwanted exposure to pornography is taking place in the home (79 percent occurs in the home; 9 percent occurs at school; 7 percent other/unknown; 5 percent at a friend’s home).[3]
    • Kids experience unwanted exposure to sexual material via:[4] A link came up as a result of an innocent word search (40 percent), Clicking on a link in another site (17 percent), A pop-up (14 percent), Other (13 percent), Misspelled web address (12 percent), Don’t know (4 percent), Pictures involving animals or other strange things (10 percent)
    • Type of material youth encounter when unwanted exposure to pornography occurs:[5] Naked people (86 percent), People having sex (37 percent), Violent pictures (13 percent)
    • Nearly 74 percent of pornography websites surveyed display adult content on their homepage (accessible to anyone) before asking if the viewers are of legal age. [11]
    • American children begin consuming hardcore pronography at an average age of 11
    • Four out of five 16 year-olds regularly access pornography online
    • Findings from the Youth Internet Safety Survey indicate that 15% of 12-17 year olds have purposefully looked at x-rated material online.
    • Data from the PEW Internet and American Life Project suggest that 70% of 15-17 year old internet users accidently view pornography “very” or “Somewhat” often.

    Child Pornography

    • Child pornography is a $3-billion industry. (Top Ten Reviews)
    • Child pornography is one of the fastest growing businesses online, and the content is becoming much worse.  (Internet Watch Foundation)  Internet Watch Foundation confirmed 1536 child abuse domains in 2008.
    •  The fastest growing demand in commercial websites for child abuse is for images depicting the worst type of abuse, including penetrative sexual activity involving children and adults and sadism or penetration by an animal.  58% of child sexual abuse images depict this level of abuse. (IWF, 2008)
    •  69% of all victims in child abuse images are between the ages of 0 and 10 years old. (IWF, 2008)
    •  In a study of arrested child pornography possessors, 40 percent had both sexually victimized children and were in possession of child pornography. Of those arrested between 2000 and 2001, 83 percent had images involving children between the ages 6 and 12; 39 percent had images of children between ages 3 and 5; and 19% had images of infants and toddlers under age 3 (National Center for Missing & Exploited Children, Child Pornography Possessors Arrested in Internet-Related Crimes: Findings fro the National Juvenile Online Victimization Study. 2005).

    Your brain on porn:

    • further decline in dopamine levels
    • further decline in opioids and endorphins
    • drop-off in GABA, which is an anti-anxiety neurotransmitter
    • rise in brain stress hormones CRF and norepinephrine 
    • elevated dynorphin which inhibits dopamine and lowers your pleasure response
    • one week after quitting the reward center sprouts new nerve cell branches, which correlate with cravings to use
    • More sources on addiction to porn

    Common porn addiction withdrawal symptoms include:

    • Anxiety
    • Restlessness
    • Irritability
    • Insomnia
    • Fatigue
    • Headaches
    • Poor concentration
    • Depression
    • Social isolation
    • Loss of libido (Can take days to manifest, and last a long time)

    Adult (>18 years old) exposure to pornographic media is connected with:

    • Believing a rape victim enjoyed rape
    • Believing women suffer less from rape
    • Believing women in general enjoy rape
    • Believing a rape victim experienced pleasure and “got what she wanted”
    • Believing women make false accusations of rape
    • Believing rapist deserve less jail time
    • More acceptance of the rape myth
    • More acceptance of violence against women
    • More likely to go to a prostitute and to go more frequently
    • Increasing their estimates of how often people engage in sex with violence
    • More self-reported likelihood of forcing a women sexually
    • More self-reported likelihood of rape
    • Creating more sexually violent fantasies to get aroused
    • Engaging in more sexual harassment behaviors
    • More likelihood of forcing a woman sexually
    • More likelihood of future rape
    • Using physical coercion to have sex
    • Using verbal coercion to have sex
    • Using drugs and alcohol to sexually coerce women
    • Having engaged in rape
    • Having engaged in date rape
    • Having engaged in marital rape
    • Being an adult sex offender
    • Being a child molester
    • Being an incest offender
    • Engaging in sexual abuse of a battered spouse
    • More willingness to have sex with 13-14 year olds
    • More sexual attraction to children
    • Having sexually abused children

    Life and death of a porn star:

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    if these links aka fucking cold hard proof dont make you stop watching it, i hope you drop dead.  

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i wish more people said that being single is normal

and you’re not going to meet and marry someone

and that’s fine

and if marriage happens, it happens. and it’s not the next big ticket to check off in life’s checklist

because not everyone meets someone they want to marry. and that’s normal

you’re not broken or unfulfilled if you are single

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babyhucks:

America: Where dudes can get unlimited boner pills that have no other medical use but women can’t get birth control pills that prevent cancers, regulate periods, help with menstrual cramping, prevent break outs, and help with cysts. 

I think it’s time for a woman’s uprising.

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"so she’s gay now?"

yeah she turned it all the paperwork last week and her acceptance letter came this morning, it was all pretty sudden

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